In two days, I’ll be jumping on a plane and heading back to Scotland, the motherland, for a month. Coming with me is my youngest son and my husband. It’s been over four years since I’ve seen my family, my own big crazy Scottish clan, and I am beside myself with excitement.
Staying back in Oz are the other two boys: one will be at home for a week before heading back to university and my middle son will be home for the remaining three weeks. All the rest of our Australian family will be away from the local area: the grandparents are rumbling off into the sunset, caravan in tow to seek warmer climes in Queensland and party on with the rest of the grey nomads?
What could possibly go wrong?
- There will be a mammoth party or ‘gatho’ (you can’t full me on that name!!) the weekend after we leave, when both boys are still home. My house will be trashed and burnt down by drunken youths. Solution-tapping out on this one!
I’m hoping that the apocryphal tales I’ve overshared with my boys in the last few weeks will put them off having too many people over: tales of house fires, arrests, pilage and the like, all of doubtful origin, but the they did make for a good conversation over dinner.
- My stash of nice wine will be drunk and not even appreciated. The fear is real here as last night we grabbed a nice bottle of red and noticed it had already had a small glass worth of wine removed, the tell tale drip mark down the front the bottle was a dead giveaway as well as the lack of a satisfying click as I opened the bottle. Having recently had a conversation with a friend of my son, who suddenly wants to be a wine connoisseur, I knew who the culprit would be! We had a ‘friendly chat’ and I’m hopeful I won’t need to hide any wine left in the house. We only have wine after accidentally joining a wine club after flight delays in an airport! Solution – I will be taking a few bottles and hiding them in my wardrobe!
- My son who has type 1 diabetes will be home alone for three weeks which includes a 3 day music festival in the middle. He will hopefully not get sick or have any misadventure befall him. Solution – he has a friend coming to stay. It is the same friend who pilfered the wine. This was organised before the pilfering incident occurred! I’ve also organised for the dad of one of his mates to check in with him a couple of times. He is a kind man and will be discreet. There is also a whole posse of my girlfriends who will swoop in and mother my boy at a moment’s notice.
A year ago, I could not have envisaged this trip but a lot has changed. My son has a new team. They are there for him to gently guide him through, helping him to learn about his body, encouraging him to see how his body reacts to various situations and learn from what he observes.
What could possibly go right?
- The house will be standing when I get home. My sheets and towels will be freshly laundered and everything, at the very least, will be as it was before.
- My wine stash will be intact and there may even be a bottle of bubbly awaiting me in the fridge to welcome me home!
- My son will thrive in my absence and I will learn to gently let him go. He plans to move out next year so this is a great chance to see what that independence really feels like. Reconnecting with my crew in Scotland is totally what I need right now. I feel an urge to scoop up and smell handfuls of the earth and inhale the odours and sights of the land where I grew up.
The last five years have been huge. I am so happy that I have held onto my marriage, some great friendships and the good relationship I have with my three boys but I am tired. I recognise this and the holiday to Scotland will feed all my senses and enable me to come back a happier and better person.
Another reason for my excitement is that this time next week, I will be in Edinburgh, meeting up with two mums of boys who have type 1 diabetes. I christened us the #mammydoc – three Scottish mammies who have supported each other through scary nights and life experiences. To be able to hang out for the day feels unreal!
Well, that’s me! Closing my laptop for the next month! Hasta la vista amigos!